The Art of Attraction

The Shit Test / Let's Talk About Sex

[I wanted to hold off writing about women again until my friends were done reading this book I let them borrow, but I'm starting to think they aren't going to finish the book just like the last girl I lent it to]

There's this little test that women love to do when they meet someone. This is known as the "Shit Test." It's when a girl mentions something about sex and there are 2 usual responses.

1. Men get too excited
(Definitely the usual response women get when they pretend to like other women)

2. Men get awkward

There is 3rd response that I do now-a-days. It's a neutral response. Just like the old saying: "Keep calm and carry on." hehe.
I'll acknowledge them nonchalantly by saying something like, "Nice," "sweet," "that's cool," "respect (following an Ali-G fist pound)."

But there are a couple instances that I regret acting neutrally when the woman was clearly showing me many signs of interest. One was at one of Atienza's birthday parties, another was my old co-worker that used to tell me that she loved eating Carne Asada fries after sex and giving blowjays in public places (that'll get about any guy too excited).

But when it comes to meeting people, it's always a different story. No guy should ever take the bait when a woman mentions sex. ("It's a TRAPPP!") Showing too much interest will make you look inexperienced and that'll show lower value.

For the past days this week, I seem to be taking a lot about body language and attraction to my friends. I've never considered myself what some might call a PUA, but if you can't figure out what that means, I'm not going to be the one that tells you because I'm already getting embarrassed as I start writing something I thought I gave up a long time ago.

I don't consider myself a PUA simply because I don't ever close. There are 3 phases to the game (if you use MMethod) and I could never get to the end of phase 3. I really like staying at the end of phase 2 (the kiss).

But anyways. Instead of regurgitating some of this stuff to my friends, I've decided to write again, but this time starting all over from scratch. The shit (excuse my language), fucking was unorganized and was maybe interesting, but not easy to read.

Before I start writing again (and perhaps pissing some people who don't agree with what I know), I want to remind you (my friends) of who I am:

I don't sleep around. In contradiction to my friend that always claims to be the biggest virgin when he used to get sex on a daily basis (which really doesn't make any sense to me).

I respect women. To the point where I used to avoid them completely.

I do believe in a monogamous relationship. I guess I'm just unlucky and end up dating women that don't seem to feel the same way.

I only learned about this because I wanted to understand women. I used to be depressed in high school about feeling like I was the only one that didn't have a girlfriend by then and was in love with my best friend that didn't feel the same way. I constantly changed myself in order to fight the crippling depression I felt about how unattractive I used to feel.

I never lie. How would you know? That could have been a lie! haha. Just kidding though, I don't. I'm a horrible liar so I don't even try. My stories are true, and you can even ask me as many questions as you want to test me if I'm lying. It's hard for me to even make up stories.

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I promised my friend that's going to Korea to teach English (I have more then one friend doing so, so it might not be the person your thinking about) that I would start writing again as long as he wrote to me all about Korea, since I love Korean girls so much.

M3 Part One (posted August 30, 2011)

I used to teach my friend some basics of attraction, but there many things that made me reconsider him as an apprentice.

First of all, he didn't want to be an apprentice. His pride and ego made him think he was already my equal (from the beginning). How can I teach him if he doesn't want me to be his teacher? It just doesn't make any sense. He would constantly nag me everyday to teach him. But that wasn't even the big problem; the main problem was that he couldn't be taught. He rejected everything I told him and wanted to continue doing the same thing that never worked. I believe that is the definition of insanity.

Second of all, was his disturbing view on women:
One day we got into a heated argument about a mutual friend that I had a crush on. He would say, "How can YOU talk to her? She's mine!" And I would responded by saying, "That is exactly why I don't want to teach you sh*t. You treat women like objects and you don't respect them."
I learned about the game in order to understanding women, but he had a different agenda. He should be looking into pimping women and stop asking me for advice.

Third, was that even though he asked me everyday to teach him something new, he failed to realize I was already trying to teach him the basics. He felt that he was better then just learning basics. I continually told him:

Do not insult women (especially Asian women who had low self-esteem which constantly seemed to be his targets)
Do not immediately hit on women (he was way to obvious).
Use a False Time Constraint (FTC) so you don't appear as a creeper that's going to linger.

I want to teach someone that thought he was as horrible around women as much as I used to be. Somebody that's patient and that would actually listen to what I'm trying to explain instead of trying to find ways to out game his own friends. I want someone that will see me as a comrade instead of a rival.

The game is about increasing your social value. Women are very kind and open. Women of beauty (that come off rude) are the way they are because men can be so tedious and boring when they hit on women (not to mention completely obvious). I used to think women differentiate men that come off being "too nice" and that seem like too much of an asshole. Now I know that they build a defensive wall to filter out the weak from the strong. In order to be attractive in a woman's eyes, it all starts with trying to understand them.

I've wanted to write about this for quite some time.
Every time there's mention about the Game a woman's default answer is "just be yourself."

I never heard a guy say that once. I wonder if it's me that doesn't understand this concept or if I'm being bias and one sided since I feel so strongly the other way. It's not that I disagree with that statement, but I find that statement to be incomplete.

It was never really about changing yourself at all. I've learned that who I am is always how I've ever been. If any changes were to occur, it wasn't because of what I've learned, but because I've always changed in response to how depressed I always was in my adolescent years. I actually stopped changing after I found out that it was okay to be myself after I finally became accepted enough by the opposite self.

When I go out and socialize I was always insecure and shy towards women. I cared about them and were friends with a lot of women who would always complain about the wrong doings of their man so I changed little by little into what I thought women said they wanted. It took me a long time to figure out that women had no idea what they want.

A woman can say that they want a shy guy, but that would only mean that they would constantly have to make the first move. Shy guys aren't going to be the ones to initiate the first kiss.